Thursday, October 9, 2008

Sweet Relationship...




Mutual respect

The key is that your BF or GF is into you for who you are: for your great sense of humor, being caring, fun-loving etc... Does your partner listen when you say you're not comfortable doing something and then back off right away? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is and understands and would never challenge the other person's boundaries.


Trust and Honesty

You're talking with a guy who is your coursemate and your boyfriend walks by. Does he completely lose his cool? Or keep walking and greeted you with a smilebecause he knows you'd never cheat on him? It's OK to get a little jealous sometimes,jealousy is a natural emotion. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust and be honest with each other.


Support.

It's not just in sad moments that your partner should support you. In a healthy relationship, your significant partner is there with a shoulder to cry on when you needed him or her whether in good or bad times. Being there to support you partner is vital to enhance your relationship. By supporting each other, you'll get to understand your partner better in one way or another.


Fairness/equality.


You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.


Separate identities.


In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, important commitments like your studies.. etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.


Good communication.


You've probably heard lots of stuff about how men and women don't seem to speak the same language. But what's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. Just create a good conversation and enjoy each other's company.



18 comments:

Unknown said...

good posting!
hanya nk tambah sket jer..

setiap manusia x akan sempurna sifatnya kecuali dia mengikut ajaran agama.

manusia dilahirkan bukan lah dlm keadaan sempurna. mereka tiada pengetahuan, tiada kemahiran , tiada pengalaman dan sewaktu dgn nya.

Apa yg membantu mereka mempelajari sesuatu adalah melalui ajaran agama ataupun pengalaman yg berlaku dalam keadaan sekeliling atau lebih senang disebut melalui perkataan 'membesar'. Kedua2nya adalah berkait rapat.

Apa yg saudari ceritakan disini adalah lebih kepada pengalaman yg berlaku di sekeliling kita.

Apa yg saya ingin sampaikan, setiap manusia tidak akan dpt menyembunyikan sifat buruk kerana sy percaya bahawa setiap orang sedang belajar mengurangkan keburukan meraka. Kalau tidak, apa gunanya blog, artikel, pakar motivasi, kaunselor atau guru2 agama.

Jadi, tidak perlulah kita merasa sedih dikalau rakan kita membuat kita rasa tidak selesa terhadapnya. kerana sememangnya dia sedang berusaha untuk menyesuaikan diri dalam keadaan sekelilingnya dan juga ingin menyerasikan hubungan sesama kita.

that why lah, kenapa kita selalu sakit hati. padahal dia ingin mempelajari bagaimana dia dpt selesa dgn kita melalui mencuba perbuatan-perbuatan tertentu yg mungkin akan menyakitkan hati kita.hakikatnya, dia ingin merapatkan hubungan dgn kita kan? apa-apa pun, kalu kita mengikut ajaran agama, sudah pasti perkara seperti ini tidak akan berlaku.

Sebab itulah, sebelum kita memilih teman hidup kita, kenalilah ia terlebih dahulu. Agar dia sempat mempelajari perkara yg boleh membuatkan kita selesa atau sakit hati. let them know much about us first before start to do more than before. Jangan terlalu tergopoh gapah utk berkahwin sedangkan wujudnya perkataan "bertunang" di dalam kamus dunia.

Sekian. friends are always want to make them more better than before. hurting is usual thing.

chelle said...

wow..long comment. hehe...by the way, who talks about getting married? i was just posting on how to become a good partner and also to promote healthy relationship..hehe. Thanks a lot for ur personal opinion. everyone is truly unique in their own way...

PS: if u wanna love, you have to risk getting hurt.

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Unknown said...

yup.. hurting is usual for everyone. tetapi yg membezakannya adalah cara penerimaan luka itu.

Sekiranya seseorang itu berfikiran positif. maka ia akan menganggap perkara luka itu sebagai sesuatu yang berfaedah. ttp sebaliknya pula bg mereka yg berfikiran negatif,contohnya membenci orang yg menyakitkan itu.

chelle said...

yes its true..always look on the bright side of life. thanks for ur opinion.. its easy to forgive someone..but its rather hard to forget wad he or she had done..there's always an impact in ones life..

Unknown said...

but, there is the way to forget right? if u are really forgive that person, u will never think about what he was doing on you anymore. take positive and learn on both (+ve & -ve)

chelle said...

yeah..it will always remain in ur memory of life... sure. learning to forgive means begin to care for someone... n let the new friendship begins

Unknown said...

yeah... prefectly!...
u know michelle?..
conflict can make relationship more closer.. really!

chelle said...

owh really..? well it depends on what kind of case and how you settle it actually...in reality, sometimes...even when one has forgiven the one who had hurt him or her...he would rather not b close to him or her anymore...

Unknown said...

because she just forgive through outside only... !! hurm.. u will be like that ka?

chelle said...

u mean not sincere in forgiving? of coz im sincere..is just that, every event in life, no matter how big or small it is..will be a part of us..n we will somehow remember it by chance...no means of revenge or insincere bah...

Unknown said...

yeah! have you ever heard what is a heart being 'scarred'? Check the dictionary...

chelle said...

hehe..yeah, got it...heart being scarred? ooohhh.... means to say?

Unknown said...

u can say that we are really forgive them... but, how much our heart can make it become sincere in forgiving someone.. i did not mean that u are not sincere.

but, if are still remember the mistake that are made by them, and u cant still forget even u forgive them. so that what i mean.. u are not really forgive them. not 100%..

Unknown said...

maybe if you take some of your brain cells out, maybe you'll forget..

chelle said...

hahahaa...lol! so funny wa cliff!! yeah, if u actually take out ur brain cell memories in life..

perhaps u can forget events in life... its just that sometimes some events in life has this deep and unforgettable impact on us.. how can u ever forget it???

Ps: forgive and forget??? better think twice on dat

As for meor, thanks for ur opinion anyway... when a fragile heart is hurt, it takes time to heal..once its heal, it will always b a part of ur life memory

Unknown said...

yes! true I totally agree with that..

Unknown said...

yeah!...
a deep moment will make us never forget that. but, it;s important that, hopely u do not keep that as the revenge..

it;s i mean.